Just the other day i was invited to dinner and rather than being thrilled at the prospect of a new meal as i am mostly fed up with mine i was confused as to what i should take to prove my ettiquette then i realised that this happens everytime with me.
Gifts- should they me momento or should it be something functional or of utility?
And it doesn't stop at this because in your mind you have figured out the expense part too because you don't want to go overboard.
A momento will add to the accumulation which might gather dust or at best may be nostalgia staring from the shelf whereas something functional or of utility may be subjected to wear and tear. Torn at the thoughts i thought it best to leave it to instinct when i shop on my way to the dinner. But i was not peaceful as i kept thinking about what i had got as gifts and remembered that some gifts can be painful too. Like this dupatta i had got the other day from a very good friend of mine. Beautiful piece in raw silk hand embroidered simply stunning but i remember the trauma i went through to get a salwaar kameez to go with it. Was unsuccessful in my explorations and finally kept it in my closet for a year an half before deciding to do justice to that stunning piece by re-gifting it to another third party with a hope that maybe she will be able to find something to go with it. Needless to say how guilty and shameful i felt after that because one part of me kept telling me how cruel i was.
How can something of good intent give you pain. To be able to have a heart which wants to be generous and kind and to be remembered with warmth and yet not really being able to do that?
Mostly i do follow my instincts but down the road i do realise that now that however clear my intentions were i would have caused pain too. Yes i remember some clearly but also remind myself not to do a repeat performance.
Wisdom is something that comes from everywhere including your experiences and how true you are to your experiences.
And yes the gift i took the other day was much loved and appreciated by my friend when she called me up from her busy schedule just to say how happy she was with it.
And i say to myself-hey! you got lucky this time...