Tuesday, June 15, 2010

The most amazing LEAF






Someone dedicated the song and the video clip to someone call Chikoo but i borrow this and dedicate this to myself.
i have just had the most beautiful retreat and my heart is singing this plus all the songs related to nature like Parbatoon ke paidon par sham ka savera hai...
i guess that was the best i could've done for the moment when my heart ached for sounds and sights of pristine nature looking all washed and clean of the pollutants when in Kerala the God's own country is having it's monsoons.
Thekkady was where i lost myself to the mist-laden tea gardens, undulating hills and grasslands and had lots of serene moments occasionally broken by the gurgling of streams and waterfalls.And yet more to this symphony were these unusual sounds of birds.
Thekkady in the Idukki district of Kerala is nurtured by river Periyar and has thick forests fit enough to be a sanctuary.Hence it is not surprising that The Peyirar Tiger Reserve Sanctuary is located here and we were fortunate enough to lodge in what has come to be known as Jungle lodges and resorts JLR and this one being inside the Tiger Reserve Sanctuary was the best option we could finally afford.
The tigers though were last spotted by tourists in 2008 someone said as they are too psyched with the sounds and sights of the more ferocious of the animal kingdom us humans to come near the fringes of the forest.However i had my share of wild ,watching from a safe distance a maternal herd of elephants and their two babies frolicking in the monsoon by the banks of  the man- made lake Periyar.Spotted a few wild boars too and few varieties of birds the calls of which sounded like words spoken in a birdy tune.
Some sounded like, sea sick,sea sick and other like, did- he -do- it...didn't- he- do- it.
There was a call like tree-tree-tree-tree and a distinct four -noted call resembling, orange-pecko but my husband said it sounded more like bo-ko-ta-ko.
We tried hastily to follow the direction of the sounds and spot the bird imagining the uniqueness just by the sounds because back home we get to hear only the cawing of the crow and sometimes the kooing of the Koel.
Certain sounds so musical like a short plaintive 'phiu' while others like a shrill 'tee-tee-tee' still others like the oft- repeated 'chip chip chip chip'. These sounds unheard in the city made us wander under the lush foliage trying desperately to spot the birds as they crooned to the soft drizzle of the monsoon.
While getting wet in the rain was fun, it was the occasional sounds of Chikee-chikee which helped us spot a small blue Kingfisher. Coming back through the woods we were also fortunate to spot few very small birds the names of which we know not but were astounded by their beauty, elegance and swiftness.
A lot of these sounds are now etched into my memory as i hushed my husband to silence while we followed the notes.
ve two- ve two
whri-ri-ri,whri-ri- ri
whee-tweet,
weet-weet
Cheek-cheek                                            
whew-whew (like whistle)
chi-chir-ri-ri-ri
chiki-riki-chiki-riki
As i wonder how these creatures must look like while they TALKED in these pleasant tunes i promised myself a good set of binoculars next time i visit another jungle resort which is going to be soon.
But the birds eluded us as while we nurtured more suspense.As to how do they look like? Are these sounds of large birds or small birds? For by their calls they all felt beautiful and very elegant.
We did spot the Darter though which locally is known as the snake bird, perched up on the chopped trees dotting the Periyar lake.Also in the lake itself the Cormorant and on the trees a beautiful small bird called the  Drongo.The glistening black metallic body made it look iridiscent.

                                                           Darter  (Anhinga melanogaster)          


                                                
                                                    Great Cormorant ( Phalacrocorax carbo)                               
                                                      Common Kingfisher (Alcedo atthis)

                                           
                                          Racket-Tailed Drongo ( Dicrurus paradiseus)

As if this was not enough i saw a most fascinating insect i have ever seen in my 45 years of  existence and i don't know as yet what it is, so i prefer to call it The Leaf .
i know many bugs like the ladybird are so pretty to look at but this one sort of hypnotised me.It had crawled inside the lodge and was maybe injured because while i watched fascinated and bewitched, i saw it move with a limp and since i was scared of touching the fragile thing i asked one of the JLR guards to lift it carefully and rest it in a safe place, which he did and then i ran skipping and hopping to my room upstairs to get my cybershot.Wishing and praying all this while that it should not fly away. Panting and gasping for breath when i returned, it was still there and off i went with my cybershot.The result may not be as good as my blogdost Karthik http://www.wildwanderer.com/journal/ but it is not bad either. So here is my most amazing creature a marvel of nature. What else but NATURE which has given it the most brilliant camouflage.

                                              


Quite unable to contain my excitement as this was a hurraah moment for me, i was having goose pimples at the sheer thrill of being the lucky one because i know by my trails now that many a times such beauties are too difficult to spot. i will know it's name shortly and maybe was pseudo cool about this treasure that came my way accidently when the fact is that i am on cloud nine as if i have struck a goldmine.Never can i imagine getting a close look at something so brilliant.Camouflage at it's best and all i can say at the moment is that nature was too kind with me in unfolding it's secrets to me yet again.

The Mystery Of Nature
by Theodore Tilton


Dated: 16.06.2010 thanks to the timely help by my blogdost Karthik again i now know the real name of THE LEAF. i am again so thrilled that even in my naiveity i called a GREEN LEAF KATYDID something so close.
Feel an enormous sense of admiration for the internet which gave me a source not only to prove my friend knowledgeable but also see the real splendour of the beautiful leaf mimic THE GREEN LEAF KATYDID.
At the moment i have not only gratitude but much admiration for this dost who not only took time out from his busy schedule to read my blog but educate me more by guiding me to the correct species of bird i had spotted.More brownie points for him as he familiarised me with THE LEAF.So all i can say to him through my blog is this,"Dear Karthik may your tribe increase!"



And before i happily call it the quits i would like to hear that song of yesteryears,the one i hummed as i went trekking into those woods so lovely.This song has words that fire all your senses in a way, when you try to see or hear...Surmaiyee ujaala...Champayee andhera...Thahre thahre paani...Geet thartharaate...Roshni ka jhurmut...Makhmali andhera...
i attempt to translate these although i feel it can't be perfectly translated only felt.But nevetheless...Kohl- laced light...golden darkness (like the colour of Champa flowers)...Still still waters...Songs shiver...Curtained light...Velvety darkness...











Image courtesy: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Darter







Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Yeh Dosti Hum Nahin Chhodenge





As i seem to be relying more and more on virtual friendship i feel i am more than satisfied. Then i begin to question if i'm on the right track? And this questioning leads me to the pros and cons of both. Or as to why this sudden need /shift.
One thing for sure no man is an island and no matter how introverted we become we definitely need some one other than family.If not for anything but just to be heard and to hear more on the same as is my case.
Then again is it right for me to generalise if i have been pricked by one thorn that came along with the rose?Should i dismiss roses to be bad and to be done away with?
Disillusioned and a bit angry with myself for being so weak and so vulnerable i go on this vendetta against these roses that are actually the real friends i am talking about.
Why all this talk about roses and real friends is because this SMS arrived this morning and it goes on like this.
"It's madness to hate all roses coz u got scratched by 1 thorn.
To give up all ur dreams coz 1 didn't cum true.
It's madness to lose faith in prayers coz 1 wasn't resulted.
To give up ur efforts coz 1 of them failed.
It's madness to CONDEMN all ur frnds coz 1 betrayed.
Not to believe in luv coz sum 1 was unfaithful.
Remember dat another chance vl cum
A new frnd
A new luv
A new day
A new life...
Never giv up.''
i know SMS Texting gets on my nerves but this one i read many times... over and over again.It comforted me.

Now this SMS is from a friend whom i haven't met after we parted that is in the 10th std.We connected thanks to internet and talk over the phone once in a while. And her enthu on this thing called friendship is amazing.While i sit down angry and hurt at my friends reconnected and immediately asking for favours from my husband and wondering if this reconnecting was okay, this ol' pal of mine seems oblivious of everything.
She is not bothered about anything but just connecting.Kudos to her take on this.No loss no gain just simply happy to connect.

Whereas i would rather stay away from such reconnections where one fine day you say,''Hello Shivani! how are you girl? Can u guess who i am?...Nandita here ...So where are u placed...What are u doing?...What does ur husband do...?...."
And the very next morning you get a call from Nandita who is asking for a favour from my husband. Which i pester and plead to get done and later have regrets and remorse.
What is this confusion?
Is it not the duty of friends to help?
But help...which has been demanded of you because you happened to know her in school. After all she took all the pains to take the first lead.So she deserves to be helped. Rather it could be her right as a friend. So
my real friends have resurfaced in my life say after 30 years or more for the facilities...privileges that i provide.BIG QUESTION MARK.
Am i being mean and small in my thinking.Another very BIG QUESTION MARK.
Question marks popping like sores because i am blessed by good samaritans like my husband who says,'' If it is in your capability and affordability then you should help out and just forget about it.Neki kar dariya mein dal  which means have no expectations... Gulabo...and don't brood too much about it."
My prayers then for the day has yet another one on the list and i start pleading feeling guilty of my smallness... to be like him...generous and so cool in his demeanour.
Another and easier alternative is to bank on your virtual friends.So i start weighing the good and the bad aspects and how to make a good deal out of a bad bargain.

REAL FRIENDS: 
                                                                                                                                                              Bright side


a) It feels better to look a friend in the eye and talk face to face.                                                                                            
b) Easier to ascertain thus, if the friend is sincere or fake.                                                                                                            
c) Then once certain you can trust them with your secrets.
d) Real friends are loads of fun if you can manage these get- togethers with fun and food or perhaps go on an excursion together.
      
Dark side


a) Chances of familiarity breeding contempt more and also some becoming too sticky to give you enough   space.
b) Very difficult though to fine genuine friends who remain sincere to you.
c) Chances of losing sleep and thus your calm if one is lost or goes away from you.
d) The get-togethers are not easy as many shy away from taking the lead so far as organising one is concerned. Patience versus time being the essence here these get togethers are much fun only when all friends are financially well placed to pool in their resources and employ an event manager for all the fun and frolic.
                                          
                                                
VIRTUAL FRIENDS :


Bright side
                                                                                                                                           
a) Easier to access.
b) Brings like minded people together.
c) Less demanding and very easy to say no.
d) Instant friendship.
e) Relaxes you, de-stresses you.
                             
Dark side


a) Unknown people and not meeting them face to face places you in a situation which is akin to risk taking.
b) Don't know all parts of your life and hence are not suitable enough to give you real advice on all your problems.
c) You may however become intimate and later land up with remorse and guilt.
d) Blooms instantly and dies an easier death and so not dependable at all.
e) There could here be a tendency to flirt or being flirted with.
 



The most disturbing thing about having real friends is that you are more susceptible of being USED rather than finding someone you can use because if you are a person who has this sense of self -pride you'd rather suffer quietly and look for solutions than asking your friend to bail you out of crisis whether it is financial or emotional.
Plus you may land up having one or many whom you will silently curse as ET TU BRUT.
Virtual friendship has it's dangers in the form of these appalling cyber crimes we get to hear these days and you are always doubting the true intentions of a virtual friend.The next thing you know is CBI/FBI turning your well kept house upside down and torturing you with inhuman interrogations.Or worse still a psychopath stalking you and making you schizophrenic.
My sincere effort to suit myself led me to this which i found informative as well as well written.
                                                                                                                               http://www.thenewatlantis.com/publications/virtual-friendship-and-the-new-narcissism

Even then the sentimental fool that i am i would not rest till i found something that spoke of what lay in my heart ready to pour out and then this said it all.
http://edbrenegar.typepad.com/leading_questions/2004/11/why_friendship_.html

The thing is, once smitten twice shy i am still looking for friends because i consider friendship to be distinctly different from networking. Sadly today both seem merged into the other.This verse by another school friend of mine puts it so succinctly http://randomverses.blogspot.com/2010/06/networked.html

"Dude i shall help you out with this but can you finish that project i was working on ?''.
It's like getting even on everything we do.Even the lunches and dinners between friends are now an evened out affair. Rather i dread to go to any such , where fancy, out of my reach cuisines are offered to me amidst much pageantry and show when in my heart i would like to get down on the floor enjoying a simple saapad (meal) with a friend and share some fun and laughter.
At the moment i cannot even think about friends with a positive frame of mind because sometimes if you are too close to a particular group chances of losing out on your individuality runs deep.You begin thinking like them and behaving like them.Even here i would love to be a maverick of sorts not adhering to one particular group but being friends with everybody. That is if i could. But for this to happen as you wish, is one herculean task. Someone somewhere will always be sore with you and will definitely call you,"Thali ka baingan"( a rolling stone) if you failed to make yourself clear which side you are on.
Filhaal ( at the moment) i have this ringing in my ears which is so apt although i know i will soon get over with it... i hope... because i hate being a negative person.



This in no way means that i'm off friends.Actually once again i'm seeking something of this kind.Some friendship of the sort where each is having his own idiosyncracies yet so much respected by the other.No pre-conditions but pure friendship like what they show in Seinfeld.



Maybe i should stop being so traditional in my approach.Maybe i should continue to nurture good thoughts about friendship and stop being so sensitive.Maybe i should first try and be my own best friend only then should i be able to let things pass without feeling so angry or hurt about it.
After all what others do is none of my business.And in between if i chance to find a real friend i shall consider myself lucky. i guess true friends these days are like those delicate,elegant French laced kerchiefs that you don't see anymore because people have shifted in their preference to using disposable tissue papers.
Meanwhile it is Dionne Warwick,Stevie Wonder,Luther Vandross and Whitney Houston in, "That's What Friends Are For".



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